Dating after fifty women
Ceri is Founder and Editor of uk She is a frequent speaker at events and in the media on topics related to women over 50 , including style and living agelessly.With 20 years experience as a headhunter Ceri also now helps support those looking to extend their working lives.I asked psychologist Wendy Gregory, who has supported many women who have found themselves in relationships with narcissists, for her tips to identify a narcissist, and to avoid getting drawn in as narcissistic ‘supply’.First of all , when it comes to relationships, for a narcissist the relationship is all about them. Online sites are an ideal place for narcissists to start to ‘groom’ individuals.
They are likely to ‘love bomb’ you in the early stages. They will make you feel as though you have met your soulmate. They like to control people and situations and have no empathy.You may well find that they frequently leave their credit card behind by accident , or will have a plausible excuse as to why they cannot pay for something (such as a holiday) but they will promise to reimburse you later. Narcissists have a strong sense of entitlement – remember your role is to serve their needs. I have put together a video on my own youtube channel which gives tips on how to check out somebody you start to date. Intimacy releases hormones that make you feel a sense of commitment.If the person you meet is genuine they won’t mind waiting. If you ask for a reasonable explanation for a missed date, or something you are suspicious about they will not provide an answer, but instead will go on the attack- making accusations against you to undermine you and deflect from any wrongdoing they may have done.When you connect with a narcissist online they know all the right questions to ask to determine whether you are a potential candidate for them – and know exactly what to say to connect with you. Keep online communication and phone calls to a minimum.The more you correspond with them the more information they glean, and the more emotionally invested you become before you actually meet.