How to stop dating someone
“I am flawed.” “If I spill my guts to someone else, they will run.” “I can’t be vulnerable.” “I’m not enough.” “I’m going to die alone.” “If I commit I will be trapped.” And on and on. When you hear yourself repeating any of these negative statements, say, “stop” and replace the thought with a positive affirmation.
I like to use “I am whole, I am love,” but use a positive statement about your worth that resonates with you.
Does someone accidentally fall on you in the grocery store?
In the two-and-a-half hours I leave the house each week, is he going to trip on me at Starbucks while I’m nervously palming my skinny hazelnut latte and completely avoiding eye contact?
The ups and downs were enough to keep me hooked, as I allowed my feelings about myself to be dictated by the opinions of people I barely knew. Somewhere along the way, I had let my ego get completely tied up in these experiences.
I had fallen into the trap of letting my opinions of my failed relationships shape my opinion of myself. While it was often an uncomfortable, awkward, painful, struggle, eventually I was ecstatic when I found a few that seemed to fit.
I find that super intriguing, want to go get a drink? After a while, it’s easy to feel like starting your collection of cats and totally giving up on the idea of ever meeting the right person.My best friend called it “going for another round.” It took me years to realize that I was addicted to the experience of dating itself.There is a great deal of novelty in meeting new people and experiencing new things with them while clinging to the distant hope that one of them just might click.Each time someone isn’t right for you and shows you that, honor their decision even if you feel differently. Do not use the experience as proof that you aren’t good enough.You have an infinite well of love to give another person. Do not underestimate its worth to a potential mate. You must maintain the belief that there are more than a few who would love your company.