Icebreakers for internet dating
“To ease the stress, it’s good to take a screenshot of your date’s profile and review it before you meet for a date," Julie Spira, online dating expert, tells Bustle."Believe it or not, some singles show up on dates who suffer a temporary loss in memory, and don’t remember their date’s name or what they look like.” She says that this can be embarrassing and will signal that you’re either a serial dater or one who doesn’t care much about the date you’re going on.“The cats-or-dogs question will get those out of the way,” Bennett says.Having similar taste in music can help you and a date bond, and if you ask them about the last concert they went to — or even the best concert they ever went to — it can help you learn more about them.
” “The secret sauce to icebreakers is creating a safe space for you both to open up, which will hopefully lead to a second date,” he says. “It’s great to have a fool-proof cheat-sheet of three specific questions to always ask on a date that relate to their profile,” she says.
With all the articles that fill our social media feeds and phones, asking your date what they’ve read lately — and what moved them — is a great icebreaker. “So stand out and compliment their style, their swagger, their shoes, earrings, jacket, or whatever really gave you a positive first impression." Plus, then it will lead to other stories and questions, such as telling you about the flea market where they got the ring or how they went to every cool T-shirt shop in L. to track down this one vintage shirt — have you been to any of those shops?
“Find out what interests and inspires your date by asking about their last great read, whether it’s an article or a book,” Antonia Hall, psychologist, relationship expert, and author of What is your date wearing that stands out? Everyone’s probably traveled at some point, whether it was road trips during their childhood or jetting to Europe after high school.
But now, you can ask your date what *else* is on their travel list, too.
“Whether someone has traveled, wants to, or doesn’t want to, it’s a simple way to find how cultured and worldly someone’s personality is,” Edwards says.