In sweats, no makeup and with my hair piled in a bun, I would go out and ring their bell around 11 p.m. I had no income, and rent was almost ,000 a month.(early, even by my geriatric standards) to ask them to quiet down. When I signed the lease, I didn’t realize the place had so many student renters, people who understandably liked to party. I wasn’t dating because I hadn’t figured out how to positively spin my unemployment story. So I hope you get a younger neighbor the next go-round.”“I never would have guessed 37,” he said.I've been there myself, and I know that plenty of smart, hardworking people go through it.But I would definitely be hesitant to date someone in that current state knowing that it's such a stressful, confidence-breaking, generally annoying state of mind.I certainly wouldn't want to embark on trying to meet and impress people romantically at the same time I was freaking out about impressing people According to a poll on dating and finances, the thing that would make the most people uncomfortable about a romantic prospect is unemployment.(I barely even understand this as practically everyone I know is buried in student loans.)Is unemployment a deal-breaker for you?The second biggest deal-breaker is significant amounts of student loans, which is a turn-off for 42 percent of respondents.
I was 37, single, unemployed and depressed because in a couple of months I was going to be moving out of my studio apartment on East 23rd Street in Manhattan and in with my mother in Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn.When I asked him if I seemed older, he said, “Not really.Mostly because you aren’t working and you’re around all of the time.”I said: “When I graduated high school, you were 4.”One Sunday at 5 a.m., he got to experience the pleasure of being woken up in my bed by his roommates’ drunken rendition of “Oops! I Did It Again.”“This is really annoying,” he yelled, covering his head with my pillow.“It’s payback,” I said. But when I told my coupled-up girlfriends, they said I was living a fantasy.“At least you’re having fun,” a soon-to-be-divorced friend said. I didn’t even want to touch my husband at the end.”Even so, the chasm between my new friend and me was no more glaring than when he said, “Dating is fun.But I would definitely be hesitant to date someone in that current state knowing that it's such a stressful, confidence-breaking, generally annoying state of mind.I certainly wouldn't want to embark on trying to meet and impress people romantically at the same time I was freaking out about impressing people professionally.