Why online dating is bs
Even though there is nothing wrong with the current relationship, who knows what’s possible if you keep your eyes open.” In contrast to maximizers are satisficers, who are willing to settle for good enough and not worry about there being something better out there (let’s face it, there probably is).
Still, satisficing doesn’t mean you should jump for joy when presented with garbage options.
How many amazing potential mates have we missed out on because we were convinced the next profile would be better?
This ease of maximizing might explain why even though more than 20 percent of 25- to 40-four-year-olds use dating apps, only 5 percent of them are able to find committed or lasting relationships through them.
It feels almost as if dating is now a competition where the wealthy, the well connected, the young the 'beautiful, and the handsome are rewarded with relationships and successful dating.
The way people seem to date nowadays is in what ever way media, online blogs and articles, relationship magazines and films tell them to act.
If you’ve ever logged on to Tinder, then you already know it’s most popular export is instant gratification, not true love... Does Tinder or any other entity have the capability to poll all it's users or get long term follow up data from them? It reads as if these are the values of people younger than myself.
If there is some subset of data available, how would it even be expected to generalize? I feel like an anachronism where all around me people seem to be using dating apps.
For a maximizer, somewhere out there is the perfect lover, the perfect friends.
Now, substitute the jeans for a romantic partner and you have what Schwartz calls “the most consequential domain where this paradox would play out.” In every aspect of our lives, we are confronted with myriad choices, but how we make these choices is often more important than what we choose.
The shopping trip shows an example of what Schwartz describes as “maximizing” behavior.
Passing up whatever came down the pike easily meant starving or being murdered by a predator.
And, when it came to mating, proximity was pretty much the only thing that mattered—even up until the last century.